Answers for New Girls

What is Tides about?

Tides is about celebrating and acknowledging the transition from girl to woman and recognising the changes that come during this time. It’s a time to connect with others of similar age, have fun and find friendship and support within a group of women who are there primarily to support you.

Who comes to Tides?

Girls between the age of 13 and 16, their mums, young women who have already been to Tides and return as young leaders and women between 18 and 60+ who help run the event.

Does my mum really have to come?

In a nutshell no and yet we encourage it. Have the conversation together considering the opportunity to a unique experience. For large parts of the programme your mum is away doing separate activities while at others you will be together with the whole group. Having your mum present makes adds to the significance of the Tides experience.

Where does Tides Take place?

Tides events take place at the Tui Events Park in Wainui Bay on the edge of the Abel Tasman National Park. It is a beautiful and private environment.

What happens at a Tides Event?

We camp for 4 nights and 5 days undertaking out door adventure, art projects, games, sharing stories from our lives and using ritual as a way to celebrate the time of transition.

What is ritual?

Ritual can be anything from celebrating birthdays to Christmas. We believe that consciously marking the transition you are in can help ease this, sometimes challenging chapter of your life and help to honour and empower you.

What is a rite of passage?

A rite of passage usually involves three stages and in the case of Tides these are: Separation from family and community, transition from girl to woman and return involving integration and celebration.

Is Tides religious?

No. Tides welcomes people from any religious sector and is not aligned with any one particular faith. We use simple ways of expressing gratitude and appreciation for who we are and feel it is important to show respect and acknowledge the value of the world we are part of.

Where do the other girls come from?

Tides participants come from all over New Zealand including Christchurch, Nelson, Wellington, Hawkes Bay and Auckland. This may mean you don’t know any one initially but by the end of the week you will have formed some long lasting friendships.

Where will I be sleeping?

In the events park where most of Tides takes place we have large canvas structures known as Tipi. Your sleeping space will be shared by a maximum of 8 others, including other girls, young leaders and women. Mums sleep in a separate space.

What do we eat?

A wide range of dietary needs is catered for with the aim of providing healthy and nutritious food. If you have any special food requirements just let us know and our cook will make sure you have what you need.

How do I know Tides is safe?

Tides is part of the Nelson Tasman Youth Workers Collective and all those who assist in running our program go through a training and police check.

If I really like Tides, can I come again?

Yes! Tides is really a two stage process. Once you have completed your rite of passage you have the opportunity of returning as a young leader. In this role you support the new girls coming through, take on more responsibility within the programme and gain leadership skills. You can return several times in this role enriching your own experience every time.

When does Tides happen?

Twice a year, in the first week of the April and September school holidays – refer to the events calendar for specific dates and upcoming events.

How do I sign up?

Go to ‘Register’ and fill in the necessary contact details. Please note this does not automatically confirm your place on an event it simply records your interest and contact information. From there we need to have a chat on the phone call and have you fill in more detailed forms. When we speak with you and your family we will learn what you want to get out of coming to Tides and how we can best support you.

Answers for Mums

What is Tides?

Tides is part of the Rites of Passage Foundation charitable trust. We provide contemporary rite of passage programs for teenage girls. We focus on providing a healthy transition to celebrate and acknowledge the phase from girl to woman. We look at the changes taking place in adolescence and how to embrace all that comes with it. It is a time for girls to connect with others of similar age, and for mums to have the support of other women who also have teenagers in their lives.

What is my purpose at Tides as a mother or caregiver?

We see Tides as an opportunity to take time and reflect on your relationship with your daughter and initiate change, if needed, with the support of other women. It is also an opportunity to share in and witness an important marker in your daughter’s life.

Where does Tides take place?

Tides take place at the Tui Events Park in Wainui Bay on the edge of the Abel Tasman National Park. It is a beautiful and private environment.

Where does Tides Take place?

Tides events take place at the Tui Events Park in Wainui Bay on the edge of the Abel Tasman National Park. It is a beautiful and private environment.

What happens at a Tides Event?

We camp for 4 nights and 5 days undertaking out door adventure, art projects, games, sharing stories from our lives and using ritual as a way to celebrate the time of transition.

What is ritual and its use in Tides?

Ritual can be anything from celebrating birthdays to christams. We believe that consciously marking the transition your daughter is in can help ease this, sometimes challenging chapter of her life and help to honour and empower her. We use ritual as a way to highlight and emphasise this important time.

What is a rite of passage?

A rite of passage usually involves three stages and in the case of Tides these are: Separation from the old, transition from girl to woman and return to the new, involving integration and celebration. Although primarily about the young person, it also marks a change in the family relationship. the emerging woman is recognised for her gifts and talents and takes on new responsibility. The resulting confidence helps create healthy adult relationships and enriching life choices.

Is Tides religious?

No. Tides welcomes people from any religious sector and is not aligned with any one particular faith. We use simple ways of expressing gratitude and appreciation for who we are and feel it is important to show respect and acknowledge the value of the world we are part of.

How do I know it is safe for my daughter to attend?

Tides is part of the Nelson Tasman Youth Workers Collective and all those who assist in running our program go through a training and police check.

What experience do those who run Tides have?

Tides has been running since 2004 and each event has approximately 10 women ranging between the age of 18 – 60+ who hold and facilitate. Between us we have many years of experience with youth work, women’s work, group work and personal development. We are supported by the men of Tracks who have successfully run events for young men since 2000. We also network globally with various other groups doing similar work.

I haven’t done much camping – what facilities do you have?

The Tui Events Park is a mainly outdoor facility with unique organically shaped structures that provide for comfortable camping. We have plenty of hot water, cosy space out of the weather and a catered kitchen. Sleeping spaces are shared in tipi or other canvas structures. Mattresses are provided. As we are often out in nature we encourage coming prepared for the variables of New Zealand weather!

Will I be alongside my daughter throughout the week?

No – your main point of connection will be with the women/mothers group. We have structured the program so that you get time alone, time with other women and time with the whole group – girls, young leaders, mothers and women/facilitators.

If I can’t attend the week with my daughter are there other ways I can be part of her rite of passage?

Yes – at the beginning of the week we invite all significant family and friends to take part in a separation ceremony and at the end of the week to attend the return celebration. As a mother or caregiver there is also an important role to play that can come in the form of a letter and or gift for your daughter if you are unable to attend.

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